When people fantasize we tend to idealize and try to avoid looking at the downside of anything. To just make a fantasy world in their own mind that’s not grounded in the realities of what being a sissy would actually be like. This detached idealization leads you to have the expectation of better things, which feels good in the moment, but when your expectations are far from reality, you eventually will come back down to earth. And when you do come down, you have a choice, you either get back into deluding yourself for another temporary mood boost, or you find a better path.
The dynamic is like a drug habit, but the drug is delusion and false promises. You have your ups in fantasy land and your downs in reality land, and you never give yourself what you need to motivate yourself to make reality land a nice place to be. Reality land isn’t as hard to deal with as people think, when you allow yourself to have a good attitude about it. There are people in genuine binds that make reality difficult. But there are many more people who find themselves in imaginary binds, that constrain how nice they can make their reality. Freeing yourself from imaginary binds and finding out how you can actually make your reality better is the best plan for fixing your emotional ups and downs and getting on a steady path towards a life you will actually enjoy living.